The War for your Balls & Soul

The War for Your F*cking Soul: On Compliance and De-Evolution

I’m doing my best, because I'm not willing to be mediocre—or at least, not willing to sit around and do nothing. I refuse to be the f*cking succubus they want and intend me to be, just another brain sitting in a f*cking vat, passively taking everything in. Even a one-celled organism has some sort of filter, yet we are intentionally de-evolving, socio-engineered by powers that are not outlandish at all.

We have always understood the concept of opiates for the masses. Is it hard to grasp that maybe, just maybe, there are those in power who want your f*cking soul, your f*cking attention, your f*cking awareness, your thoughts, your breath—to direct it toward what they want and not the other way around? It’s so easy at this point. All it takes is some attention, money, and knowledge of the human psyche that a middle schooler could understand. It's not a f*cking conspiracy theory; it’s a reality.

If I am not directing my attention toward something, then someone or something will willingly be taking it.

The Factory of Compliance and the Sickness of Regulation

It's f*cking compliance: be compliant, be a good boy, don’t piss anyone off, don’t say something that might tick off your mother or father, or worse, the feminists or those fluids parading in universities screaming "Free Palestine" dressed in heels.

I feel deep inside me that I am a product of years of anti-compliance, boiling deep down within whatever the f*ck you want to call my soul. This hasn't always done me well, but at least it gives me some sort of direction.

Maybe these mind-bending drugs are really doing something to f*cking help me, helping me not fall into the same monotonous patterns. But isn't it fun experiencing powerful feelings, whether good or bad? Is the answer just being regulated? Is a regulated nervous system "regular?" Is that the goal of the corporations—one big factory of compliance and domestication?

If I were a government, would I want to easily maintain the peace and the boundaries of those I governed? Who wants to govern the wild ones—those who, at will, want to be ungovernable?

The Medication Trap

Maybe if I dose myself up on some f*cking SSRI or SNRI, I’ll just get it. Maybe it will help me be more f*cking successful, to achieve what I want.

Look at the data: Between 2020 and 2025, depression rates in the United States more than doubled, reaching over 18% among adults. This represents a catastrophic rise. I predict a drastic increase in antidepressant prescriptions over the next 10 years. I hope I’m wrong, or maybe I just need to invest heavily in the next pharmaceutical companies.

Have you ever wondered the f*ck why they give this sh*t to people without an actual plan for rehabilitation? Isn’t that the point of these medicines? How can I effectively use them to help myself and not become f*cking dependent on them? I remember watching a friend wean themselves off that sh*t—it’s not pretty. Stop taking it cold turkey and it will f*ck your ass up, putting you in bed. Really f*cking healing.

The Sociocastrated Man and The Mantidote

Have you ever seen those husbands who follow their wives around, the kind that need to ask permission to leave the house or invite their friends over to watch a hockey game?

I wrote about this trend in my book, The Mantidote. It’s an unconscious shift where the automatic assumption is that men hand over the reins of decision to their wives once they get married. I know for many of the women reading, you’re probably thinking, "WTF," or having some internal angst against hearing this, but this isn't an anti-woman trope—this is a stark reality.

The only people that truly want a domesticated man are the government. If they can use a woman to keep him in check, they’ve done an excellent f*cking job with minimal power.

Part of this domestication is both the denial of our primal instincts—the assumption that they no longer influence us—and the shame men carry, which is weaponized against them by a female-first (emotive-centric) primary order.

The emasculation of men is part of what gives society the capacity to keep us behaving and under wraps. A man who is afraid to piss off a woman, is afraid of women, he isn't himself, he can't express his true nature, his capacity to be dangerous—that which helped evolve him over millions of years. This is a sociocastrated man. He has lost his edge because he is too afraid to tap into his raw side, which is shamed, and he fears the look of dismay in the eyes of a woman who, to his primordial sense, is sort of like his mother.

This is precisely what a domesticated male looks like. If men were the primary warriors and hunter-gatherers in a society, imagine how a tribe would look if their men were domesticated. Imagine how this applies in our modern day. It has repercussions: we're herd animals who easily do what everyone else is doing. If everyone else is domesticated, then it is more likely that we will be more easily controlled, just by means of our nature.

A society of single mothers raising sons without any male role model is yielding exactly this. A woman cannot replace a man when rearing a child. I used to walk on eggshells because my f*cking education taught me to be a yielding, pleasing individual whose purpose was to maintain the happiness and peace of my home. Bullshit. "Happy wife, happy life" isn't real and is the recipe for f*cking disaster.

I'd rather be labeled a misogynist by those who can’t see past the costumes. True safety is found within those who can express and be themselves, because it is only then that you can make a real decision. Even I struggle with this because, on some level, there is an empathic side of myself that doesn't want to hurt the people I love at the expense of my own self. It’s a constant struggle: What am I okay with? What am I not okay with?

The Need for Cold Hard Truth

This is the healing we need: cold hard truth.

The guys who are truly unsafe are the ones who are trying to cover up the dark part of them, pretending it isn't there. They put away an aspect of self that is sorely needed. And as they continue to stray from that need, they become more and more resentful with those around them, because ultimately they aren't getting what they want or need and pretend they are. This facade only lasts so long, and it is precisely these types of people that end up blowing up and actually hurting people.

Domestication of men ultimately ends up hurting people. It creates a defunct sort of male, with his balls chopped off, who can't get over the fact that every time he tries to get up and do something for himself and be successful, he is shunned by society and the women around him. I am often surprised at how many men out there can have a successful career, make money, but when they come home to their wives or girlfriends, they sulk back into the nice guy they grew up with, whose whole persona was based on a child who needed to please mommy to get the attention he wanted.

The Evolutionary Breakdown

The effects of having women who don't choose partnership or babies in the younger stages of their lives are women who eventually freeze their eggs, women who eventually don't find partners for themselves, or at least men who are willing to be role models for their children, because they waited too long. Or they bought into the farce society has convinced them: that it is not necessary to have men in their lives and that they will be happier off without them.

Humanity evolved for over millions of years in hunter-gatherer societies that had a maximum of 60-70 people in the tribe. We all agree that young humans and children were raised by a tribe, a community that included everything from infants to elders. The transition from tribal living to nuclear families, and now to many single-parent homes, has left many children, especially boys, without consistent male guidance.

Our history of connection and engagement between male and children has been dwindling as a result of this transition. We see it dwindling even further considering the lack of community, and the desire of single mothers to beget children without the existence of male role models in their lives. These instincts should be cherished, but there must be people or a person within their lives who take the position of male role models.

Embracing Primal Honesty: Relational Scenarios

We need to look at our current reality in a multilayered way, seeing our normal primal selves as the basis for who we are today. When it comes to dating and intersexual dynamics, we must take into account the reality that every person, at least men, will initially judge a seemingly platonic relationship through the eyes of the primal, mating human.

We should structure the relational aspects of our lives—including relationships, dating, friendship, marriage, or our social order—with a level of self-awareness, and not the pompous "I am above my instincts." Our instincts play an integrative role within our perception. I personally feel much more aligned and strong knowing this. Understanding evolutionary psychology and biology is what brings us to a more full and honest perspective.

The divinity we seek is the free choice to be brutally honest, and not shameful about how it is we work as animal-humans. We must apply this honesty to our most sensitive relationships:

• If you're a woman and 40 and haven't had kids yet: Go ahead, use those frozen eggs and IVF and have a baby. But do it knowing that the child needs a male role model and that you cannot provide it for him alone. He needs something more than you, and you cannot just give him everything he needs.

• If you have a girlfriend who maintains relationships with ex-lovers or boyfriends: Understand what this means. This isn't just platonic, even if she claims they are "just friends." Once something as intimate as sex has been opened, the potential is never closed; he may be her friend, but once a lover, always a greater potential to again be a lover. The potential is always there. Don't deny it, thinking these relationships are innocent, regardless of what she says.

• If your wife or girlfriend no longer wants to be intimate with you: Understand it more deeply for what this really represents. She is no longer attracted to you. Does it mean the flames can't be rekindled? No. But understanding that attraction is the core of every intimate relationship will help you handle it accordingly.

• Do you want to understand why you're struggling in relational areas of your life? Look more deeply at how you're interacting. Are you the nice guy who befriends all his female friends, thinking that at some point you will find the one who loves you for who you are? Understand that your way of interacting with women is not inducing the necessary attraction, and that they are looking at you like a gay boyfriend. Instead of pretending that the "right one" will come, use the knowledge of evopsych to help you change your game.

• If you are a woman who is sleeping with many different men often: Do you think you will eventually find that man and be easily bonded to him? Where is he? Understanding how your psychology as a woman works, differently than a man, and that your mating and reproductive strategy serves as the basis for that psychology, will help you make the right choice and even find the necessary therapy if you want to make the changes you need.

The bottom line is that we have much more clarity when taking a look at the big picture of who we are, for real—not one that is distorted by the subjective perspective of universal acceptance, but one that gives us an objective perspective to work on, even though it may hurt our feelings

I offer 1-on-1 consultations for men and women regarding relationships and dating, grounded in the brutal honesty of Evolutionary Psychology and Shadow Work.

My guidance is backed by real-world experience: working directly with men, running men's circles, and building a community of over 4,500 men.

Don't wait for the compliance factory to win.

Dating & Relationship book - The Mantidote

Meditations & Self-Hypnosis - Free & Paid

Inquiries & Consultation - Contact